Things She wishes He knew
After a short hiatus, we are back. 
Sorry for all delay fans…life happened. We hope you missed MyQismah!
Every where I go lately, it seems that men are telling me how complicated women are. Are women that complex? Can men really not understand us? Ladies, how do you feel about that?
I actually don’t blame you guys. I understand that our emotions and expectations of you reading our minds (LOL) can make you feel clueless when it comes to figuring us out. But trust me, we are not an enigma.
And since I feel for you guys out there, I decided to help you out a bit. (Ladies, this could help you too)
Here is a list that was compiled via informal survey of many different women. Women of different ages, races, and backgrounds have helped answer these questions. All I did was aggregate the top similarities.
Ok, I’ve made you wait long enough. Ready? Here it is, Things She wishes He knew….read, learn, remember.
(oh, and don’t worry, next week we will have Things He wishes She knew)
1. Attraction is more than looks to me. It’s about the way you walk, talk, and carry yourself too.
2. Asking me out directly without lame lines or beating around the bush usually warrants a YES answer.
3. I love it when a guy is honest from the start about his intentions.
4. I remember everything about our relationship.
5. I expect you to call me. Not just text or IM or email me, but CALL me.
6. I love knowing you’re thinking about me throughout the day, so random texts or IMs always bring a smile to my face.
7. A lady should always be greeted with a kiss.
8. The sweetest kiss from you is on my hand or forehead.
9. I’m in heaven when you hold my hand.
10. Please prove that chivalry isn’t dead. All it takes is opening doors for me. (That means open the door, let me in first, and then you can follow.)
11. I need to hear how you feel about me. Tell me often.
12. I expect you to ask me out and take me on dates even if we’ve been together for a while.
13. Even if I always take pride in my appearance, I still make an extra effort to look nice for you.
14. With #13 being said, please notice how I look and compliment me on it.
15. Shopping for new clothes/shoes/bags is great not because of the material aspect, but because of how I feel when I wear them.
16. Just because I like to look nice doesn’t make me high maintenance.
17. I don’t need fancy dress-up dates always, but every so often they are nice.
18. I enjoy planning things for us to do, but it’s nice if you step up and do this every now and then. (don’t forget #17)
19. Simple surprises are wonderful.
20. Even if I say flowers are waste of money, I still want to receive them at work for a special occasion or just because.
21. Celebrating our anniversary, even if it’s only been a few months, earns major bonus points. (The point here is that you remembered.)
22. When you give me a card, make sure you write something sentimental and sweet in it. Just signing your name is lame.
23. Making me feel special on my birthday is a necessity.
24. Listen for clues on gift ideas because trust me, I will sneak them in.
25. I love it when a guy knows how to dress.
26. When in doubt, go with the shirt that matches your eye color or compliments your skin tone.
27. I really do notice if your belt matches your shoes.
28. I like wearing your clothes.
29. I LOVE it when you tell me what you’re thinking, especially without me having to ask.
30. I want to be the best thing that ever happened to you–and for you to recognize this.
31. There is just something about a man who likes and knows how to deal with children.
32. If I’m not affectionate towards you, something is seriously wrong.
33. You should never tell me what to do. Only suggestions are appropriate.
34. I’m scared of losing my independence.
35. As much as I love and admire my mother, I’m terrified of becoming like her.
36. I fear falling into any stereotypes that are blanketed towards women. Examples: nagging or being needy. I work hard at NOT fitting into those, so don’t peg me in such categorizes.
37. I’m more forgiving of you than I really should be. (and I fear being taken advantage of because of this)
38. When I seem distant, but I keep saying I’m fine, you should know I’m not. Call me out on it.
39. I’m very impressed when you ask for my advice.
40. I’m unimpressed with a man who can’t take the lead.
41. It’s cheating as soon as you’re doing something with her that you wouldn’t want me to see, hear, read…
42. For the record: I’d much rather you break up with me than cheat on me.
43. It’s important to me that my family and friends like you.
44. I need my alone time too.
45. I’m always willing to give something a chance if you love it and I’d hope you’d do the same for me.
