Finding Your Worth
Approximately three years ago, I was a single, bitter female who was secretly insecure and feared getting hurt again. After much work on myself with positive thinking, affirmations, prayer and wise advice, I saw my worth. I realized I am a GREAT catch and I have much to offer and that not just any man deserves me.
I realized that I was wasting precious time and energy looking for Mr. Right in any guy that wanted to date me. One day it finally hit me that as a single woman ready for marriage and feeling that time was fleeting (cultural pressure), I was putting hope in each guy that approached me. I couldn’t believe that I was thinking of every man as possible potential! That allowed me to put too much energy into something that wasn’t worth effort and if focused my effort on me pleasing him rather than figuring out if he could please me.
How many of you ladies have done this repeatedly? If you have, you know it’s exhausting and disappointing.
But do you realize that you are worth more than that? Do you see that not just any man should be given the honor of being considered potential for you?
Men, maybe this is or has happened to you as well.
You need to realize that not just anyone should take all your effort, energy, thoughts, and time. Not just any man/woman deserves to be on your maybe list for settling down. You are worth more than that and before wasting all your efforts in trying to get him/her to like you, you need to figure out if you even like him/her!!!
Single individuals experience rejection and disappointment so often that it becomes an obsession to just want to be wanted. Add the culture pressure of needing to get married by a certain age, and you have a horrible combination for desperation.
Stop the cycle and realize your worth. Take a long look at what you have to offer someone special, doesn’t all that deserve to go to someone worthy of it? Then maybe when you meet someone new, you can go into it with a mindset of getting to know him/her instead of focusing on just impressing him/her. You may find out quicker that he/she isn’t even worth impressing!
If you don’t see your worth, then you need to find your worth. Make a list of all the great things you can offer in a relationship and keep reviewing and adding to it. The more you think about it, the better ingrained in your mind it will be.
